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Duration Of Healing A Heart Broken

Mending a broken heart is not that easy, but it can truly be done. There are good ways and bad ways (like suicide) in how to heal a broken heart. Your heart needs a management, and there is no other manager of your own body except your own heart itself. If a manager is just staring at the problems of organization or business, nothing would happen and he will experience the problem more which will be getting worst because of complications. It is also the same with a problem in your heart, if you don't move and just stay where you stop, even the time of your death you are still broken! This means the duration can be as simple as early or it can be worst as lifetime.

The 4 Level of Relationship

1. First Level - There is still no plan for marriage. The relationship last for less than months. Each both sides have experiences in breaking up and real love relationship. The effort and duration doesn't take too much time, but it can last forever if you cannot manage it easily. This level sometimes happen to young individuals who doesn't take marriage seriously.

2. Second Level - There is still no plan for marriage but already talk about fundamentals of future, and the relationship last for almost a year and each sides knows each other very well. They have past experiences in love but past is past. The effort and duration is more harder compare with the previous one. There is a possibility of suicide once alcohol is added while problem is still fresh. The broken heart also feels alone for a short period of time.

3. Third Level - There is a plan for marriage, and relationship is more than a year, both sides might have past experiences in love and some might be first time. The duration and effort is hard at this time, because the broken hearted person think that the only solution is going back to the past. Some young individuals commit suicide while in this level, thinking that the only solution to the problem.

4. Fourth Level - There is a date for marriage, relationship is almost at its last part for being a single status. Both sides doesn't care about the past relationships if any. Ready for marriage. This is the most hardest level, where the duration and effort should be taken seriously. The first day after breaking up is like a feeling of death, where loneliness and being alone in the world is the only thing in mind. Duration is longer compared to the last 3 levels.

The Infatuation Level

This level is the most easiest to heal, Where it is only an infatuation, which reaches the highest fever pitch in short time, but it easily fades. Each of them don't know and confused if it is real love. Usually there is no massive courting and mutual understanding take place easily or even instantly which everyone is initially attracted in physical appearance. Despite they know each other for many years, the closeness happens only in a short period of time or instantly. Also in this level, one is using the other one just to forget the past relationship to move on, which is wrong. Some reason of acquiring this level is because they are boring and they need a partner with sexual sparks even they don't plan to have sex. This usually happen to immature individuals who are not thinking that relation is for marriage. And they cannot answer the fundamental question of relationship, "Do I want to marry this partner?", everything is in doubt.

Managing the Broken Heart

Everything has its own solution. A one facebook profile stated that "when i see other people's problem, i can see that mine is just basic. Every time i start my day reading... i found out that it cures all the pain. This proves that there is no problem without solution, there are several solution available... You are just blind to see them. Organize it... Problem is like Management! you need to learn how to stop the problem in short time, if possible instantly!" he also added that "It doesn't mean you need to compare to give you comfort if other's problem are harder than yours. But, It must guide you to help them instead of saying you are better than them. Remember if you are helping others, then you are solving their problem right? So if there problem is bigger than yours, then you can solve your own problem because it is smaller, you are just too idiot on small things. ... and you are not really moving on solving it. it is like you are sick but never move to cure..", Solving a broken heart requires an effort and not just crying all night and experiencing all day thinking about happy moments of  the past that makes you cry.

The only way is to keep moving on, find the best way to move on. If you are from Dagupan, and you plan to go to Lingayen, what is your step to escape Dagupan. Of course you need to travel. If you don't travel, and you are just resting, you cannot escape Dagupan and it could take you a day if you just walk. But if you ride or drive, then in 40 minutes everything is okay. Walking Dagupan to Lingayen might give you hardships, you might experience the heat, health problems may arise, dust and other problems that may lead you into complications such as having more health problems that could disallow you forever to go to Lingayen. It is just a simple example anyway, but on the other side, if you ride a bus or if you call your friend then he drive you and help you, he even ask you to sleep while you are in travel, then you can go to Lingayen in less time, and hope those friends will carefully drive to avoid accident.

When your heart is broken, never stay in a single place. Get out and do advance things that you plan to do in the future. If you plan to finished your study in the next 4 years, then you can do an advance reading that could help you in the next years. If you plan to have your own music for the next 3 years, why not do it this year. If you plan to have your car in the next 2 years, why not do it on the next few months that could give you a busy time. If you plan improve your spirituality tomorrow, start it this moment and you will see that being a broken heart doesn't really destroy yourself, but it builds a better future.

Of course you will feel loneliness and reading this blogpost link could help you http://www.daycody.com/if-you-feel-loneliness/. Never too much believe in worldly philosophy such as "too much love can kill you". Remember that there is no problems without solution. But the only problem is you, if you fail to seek on it.

The Management of Pain

1. Planning - First you need to plan what should you do. You need to create a to-do list on your everyday life. Plan for the task that help you to become happy and avoid several ways on making you sad. "If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail"

2. Organizing - Implementation is very important, the plan is useless without organizing. You must create your own step by step list in order to achieve your own goal.

3. Leading - You need to take a lead of your decisions, avoid distractions that could put you away in good lead of yourself. You need to lead yourself and avoid others to lead you on what you should do.  You know what is best for you, and you should take lead not to destroy your plan.

4. Controlling - Don't let the pain control you, you need to control yourself according to the right decision you made. Never let other human to control you that could lead yourself into a wrong decision.