OPINION: It is not just about physical appearance. It is everything you see in a person. Everyone can smile, can give a great impression, can speak nice words, can make you at ease. But one thing I really learn in my life is… it can be really deceiving.
Previously when I was a child, my perception with persons with high social class are nice and great people. But as I grow old and spend some time with them, not all are really true on what you see, and most of them is covering mistakes of corruption.
Another experience is about those handling a privilege and responsibility, I know that they are not perfect but I thought that no one is unkind. But in reality, I realized that it is a decision of each if they want to be guided or they will follow their own. Loyalty to God is not depends on ranks and privilege they have. Honestly when a District Overseer (yes, you might not believe that a persecution will came from a respected rank who) made an incorrect decision and didn’t do the right thing, I temporarily lost my trust to all. But instead of breaking the trust, I even feel stronger since I know that even an ordinary one like me is not like him. But after all, most brothers with responsibility gained the trust and I believe that there is a right time for every corrections.
When a beautiful lady in front of you asked you to have sex, it is one of the hard temptation to leave despite you have guided principles. It is true that decision depends on us, but it is hard to leave temptation especially when you think that a hard thing to achieve is a sure chance to do and you know that no human is watching or knowing what you are doing. No one is exempted into this, even married couples. In reality, married couples hold more temptation to be unfaithful because of the reality that they are just in the same sex partner, it is like just having a same food all over again.
But faithfulness is very important and it would bring long term goal. Despite there is a high pitch of happiness in short term sex, wrong doing will always result in unacceptable situations. Some people think that early teen exposure to sex will make a person more focus to career and life, yes it may be true but it could lead into more serious thing and might not seeing the danger on it like pains and sufferings.
So what is the best thing to do? Don’t be overconfident. One step is running away from a tempting situation which it is the very basic. Aside from building up your God-fearing conscience, basic things like disciplining yourself to avoid any situation could lead into a great escape. It is also true that sex is only enjoyable for a short period of time even for married couples and it doesn’t really last for a year. So if you have a mate or in relationship, once sex drive is gone, you need to maintain the love to avoid hurting the other partner. When something wrong happen, it is best option not to do it again, instead do your best to be readjusted and accept the discipline to make yourself happy again, remember that “discipline seems for the present to be joyous, but it is painful; yet afterward, it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it”. (Hebrews 12:11)
OPINION: If you suffer for the sake of righteousness… (1 Peter 3:14.) You must be happy. That is the text for this day which is a great combination with the previous day text: If you become discouraged in the day of distress, Your strength will be meager. (Prov. 24:10).
What is my point is, Never ever give up. The best thing to do when you are weak is to make yourself strong. Don’t skip any meals and Don’t allow the problem to overcome you, instead solve the problem, just express your right side on some injustice happen and be optimistic that in the future it would be okay and move on. Sometimes you need to wait for the right time for you to be happy. It is my experience before that I almost give up when a well respected men (the groups of D.O. Benjamin Torres and friends) unguided themselves and give persecutions, trials and injustices. I never know what would happen and how to continue… But instead of giving up because of worst situation, just make sure you are always getting up and walking forward and never plan to stop or quit despite sometimes you may be weak and almost plan to give up.
This should be the expectations, it should be better and keep walking straight. Remember that after those problems, you will become more Stronger, more Mature and more Great things to happen. I assure you, when you do good, even death is not the end of everything.
It is very hard to control our speech specially when you are frank and think that you have authority over others. But one thing we need to consider is the feelings of others (Philippians 2:4). Despite the reality that It may be hard to speak the best way we could because of imperfection, we need to struggle to achieve the best words to use. But think of it before you speak, because once the words are already out, you cannot return it back. Always remember the best for others than yourself.
It helps me to develop this article because I learn this to my brother’s post in a local language:“no say pantupak na bola et maksil, say tendensya, amay angitupakan nayarin nasampat to, odino mas alodloor,nasakitan!..diad biek a dapag nu makalna o GENTLE so pantupak na sakey,mainomay itan ya nasampat, agmakasakit ta atantsa so pantupak..mipadparan dalan, nu say sakey et ansakit so panagsalita to, maka-opendi, pranka anggano jad publiko nayarin nasakitan so pangitupakan o pangibagaan..nu marakep so pitongtong, walad lugar tan makatunungan a panagsalita,mainomay ya nasampat na pangibagaan..angano maksil so pangitupak, nasampat ko tan!..hehehe..normal so manpasnok,pero maslak makapuy so epekto na sanuk..(Uliran13:3)”
I miss the old days, but not going back to the old days, there are some things that I just miss even some are not good to miss even I miss it (Got the Point?). First, I just miss some folks, some classmates, my best friend, my friends, my teachers, my former colleagues, co-workers, some relatives who are in abroad and also relatives and friends who passed away.
I also miss the “music days” and best time we have, but it doesn’t mean that I want to reconcile the band, but I just miss the people around it. Music is part of my life and it would always be until the end . Another thing to miss is my business “Codeshop” place, it plays a major role in developing my skills in management and also provide investment for my higher education and career, despite I have no plan to put it up again, the business place is very memorable since too many things happens around. I miss some of my ex-girlfriends, specially those who are hot (just kidding, hehe) who give me first kisses and first experience (I mean other experience, hehe). But I don’t even plan to reconcile any relationship or give a way back. I just miss the moments and romantic days around. My mind is temporarily missing old time, but I know once I expressed it here, it’s easy to forget.
Well, it takes so much effort to develop this kind of life, what I miss from the pass doesn’t mean that I want to go back, yes, there are times that I miss something, but this life is far more better than my old life, and I will never ever make any short term happiness because of the fact that I just miss it temporarily. This new life provides me better love, joy, peace, patience… and other best outcomes. Almost 4 years ago (July 2010), I started to make a hard readjustment for a new life despite the expectations that it would give me full of struggles because it is really hard to adjust this stupid and idiot unwise mind I have, and last 2012 I am living in a new life, so If you know me before, you might want to change your perception to me. I am not hot anymore, I don’t even focus on time wasting games excessively anymore, I don’t drink a lot (even sometimes I admittedly fail this promise), I am not rich anymore and no more money to waste… despite I lost something from yesterday, I don’t have any regrets because on what I have today. I’ve got new friends around, new company, new girlfriends or should I say just one girlfriend, even new family (those I ignored before). But all I can say, the things that I have today, cannot compare to the things I lost yesterday.
It is a little bit exciting going out the country, since you will experience a new cultures new places, to learn more and to explore. But there’s a lot of things we need to consider when going abroad. When I say going abroad, it is for the purpose of work, and not just to visit for a few days.
Last December 2012 after the big struggles, I planed to temporarily stop my teaching career until March 2013 and try to go abroad for another simple work on May 2013, but since the restrictions was not yet removed, I’ve been advise not to leave. For another time, I call it as a fall back plan just in case some goal is not reach this year. Honestly, If I am only single this time and not into relationship, it is a factor that I would be leaving. But one thing that triggers me to go out is: when a goal didn’t take place or approve this September 2014. Since I am working in an school, I can apply for a year leave and go back without losing my job here. But this is just a fall back plan, I still have no idea if I submitted my application for September and have a good expectation, but whatever happens, I would always do my best for the improvement of my spirituality.